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#9 - Harder Steps To Begin Meeting Our Micro-Voices (pt 3)

Updated: Mar 20, 2023

Some micro-voice searches require determination to uncover deeply held emotions.

My journey for self-discovery continues with me seeking a shamanic healer to unlock even deeper Inner Child fears and needs. At this point I have significantly shed most of my micro-voice layers that use judgment when interacting with the outer world of people and experiences. I can truly say I love every moment without reservation, feel no need to judge others, and know that I am in partnership with my soul and my soul’s voice, the aware self. Yet there exists something deeper I’m trying to discover that drives aspects of my addictions and mild Asperger’s-like behaviors.

At the very core of my most fragile little boy were apparently experiences that left me feeling unsafe and incomplete. My guess is that I did not receive the intimate nurturing that we all need for development of our secure, loved, most inner self necessary for developing a complete love for self. I had no doubt my parents loved me as dearly as any parent could, but back in the 1950s nurturing practices didn’t include a lot of holding, hugging, and kissing, especially by fathers of sons.

Unfortunately, things haven’t changed that much for the better today.

The years that I have spent developing this blog were primarily head-centered using concepts based on thinking how we need to heal ourselves. I am now discovering my lack of ability to see my Inner Child needs from a heart-centered perspective. Many among us are frustrated not being able to attract a loving mate. For me there has been a hole within me that I now realize comes from not feeling how to love. I can know how we are supposed to love, I can follow websites that tell me what steps I can take to become more lovable, and I have had conversations with loving couples who described their lovingness for each other. But that is only head-centered knowledge.

As mentioned previously I spent time in prison for having an addictive behavior. That was not an ideal place for developing heart-centered personal growth to say the least. But I could safely explore the dynamics that contributed to my Inner Child feeling unsafe and examine the micro-voice layers. Now it is time to seek additional help to uncover what else my head-centered search has not been able to find. For some of you the search has been mostly head-centered and you may be still feeling that emptiness. Both approaches are needed.

There are many disciplines being used in professional counseling now and some work better than others. Finding a counselor for yourself is a very personal experience and I will not make any recommendations. You can make self-discoveries, shed the layers of protection around your Inner Child, and become able to love every moment without conditions and live an ecstatic, creative, happy life with others. But if you discover that there is more you want to uncover about yourself and you seem unable to go further in your self-explorations, then seeking outside sources can be very helpful.

Our souls will bring us the experiences we need to learn how to love. This is our life’s purpose. For most it takes a lifetime to achieve, if at all. Be patient with your progress, but most of all be kind to your many selves. It took many years and untold numbers of experiences to bring us to this point in life and unpeeling the protective layers our Inner Child has created will take significant time to unravel and adjust to. But it does happen. -kc


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This blog has been a work of love developed over the past ten years and finally brought to life through the dedicated tech help by Soren, who was originally my physical therapist and now is a time-limited partner who managers two other martial arts training centers. Being an old gay guy I struggle to function well in the blog-a-sphere so this presentation will be a bit rough at first. Feel free to lend your ideas.


Since my teen years I have believed that through appropriate touch we can heal ourselves. But the journey to better understand my own dynamics and gain enough awareness to be able to write about our complex humanness only coalesced after I had an opportunity to be in prison. There I had time to do deep self-examinations about why I was who I am and how I could translate that into helping others make discoveries for themselves. I do not claim to be a professional therapist or counselor.


But I do believe there are others in this world who might benefit from these ideas presented in this blog platform. Having grown to the point of releasing nearly all of my fears and can now truly say that I love every moment and feel in partnership with my soul, I feel that others may benefit from my travels. Being non-judgmental I welcome your insights, whatever they may be, and I will strive to help everyone find greater peace in their lives. and Hoshow, LLC.


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